Submitted by Genesis in UT (to read more, visit Genesis at here)
I know that there is a plan for every single human being and that it all works out in it’s own time it’s hard to remember that when all you think about is being a mother when it is surrounded by you everyday. But there is hope and I live by it. It happened to us and like us to many others in this world today. I looked back when we were chosen for a little girl and how traveled Louisiana to see her. How happy we were to adopt a little girl and how when that fell through we were devastated - our hearts were crushed.
We couldn’t understand. We had prepared and thought that the little girl was suppose to be in our lives. However the Lord knew all along. If we would have not been chosen by a mother who was thinking of placing her child up for adoption in good ol’ Louisiana and had she not planted an idea that we would be parents to a little girl, then we would have never had the opportunity for our son.
So here is the story. We decided to fly out to Alexandria, Louisiana and we had a idea that our birth mother at the time would be induced, however her due date was miscommunicated between the case worker and her. She was having complications at the time - the mother had high blood pressure, so the doctor said if she did not calm down she would have to be induced to have the baby . Well she had the baby a week before so when we arrived we thought that the baby was not even born yet.
Later we received a phone call announcing that our case worker had gone to her home and saw the baby’s daddy. Then he told us sorry, she had the baby a week ago and we did not have the courage to tell you. This after she had emailed me and said that she knew that we would take good care of her daughter and to tell her how much she loved her. So it was hard for us to understand why there was no communication between the Louisiana case worker and the birth mother. The case worker had wanted us there so we had flown out assuming that the baby was not born yet.
We stayed though with a wonderful couple in Louisiana .We were blessed to stay with them. Through the church in Louisiana, we found a wonderful family that could take us in and they were planning on adopting as well. So this would be a good experience for them to see what we had to go through and we were the guinea pigs. It was a good experience for all of us. We became great friends, we grew a lot on that trip. Jason and I decided since we spent our money on tickets to fly out there, why not make it a vacation.
So we did and all of a sudden the Lord decided to bless us. Here is what happened. The case worker that we had been working with in LA went to Georgia for a conference . Another case worker was in nearby room discussing how she did not know how she was going to find a couple for her birth mother, because everyone she had chosen for the birth mother was not interested. Low and behold she said she was looking for a bi-racial couple (I’m half Asian so that was a good start).
The case worker in LA was brown nosing which is good for us and he said, “I’m sorry I over heard you” and so he then tells our story to the other case worker. He said that we were still in LA so if they wanted to check us out, they could. So she looked at us online and she said we looked great so she sent our profile to the birth mother. The birth mother then chose to have a face to face meeting with us. It was great. This was on a Sunday and we are in LA and we are just hanging out with everyone and playing games. Well we got a phone call from our case worker in UT. She asked how we were handling things and we said pretty well. She said I have a proposition for you. I asked “What?” She said you have been chosen again!!! Wow - if we would have not stayed in Louisiana, then this would have never happened.
She said the birth mother would like to meet you and have a face to face. She told us that we would have to leave tonight, because she wants to meet you on Monday afternoon and she lives in GA. Mind you we are like in LA so we were like wow tickets are expensive to fly. So we rented a car and drove through all of LA, Mississippi, Alabama, and then made it to GA. We drove straight through and it took 24 hours it was so hard!! I can not stay up that late and drive we were lucky and blessed to make it there in safety, because I was so tired as well as Jason.
Long story short: If we would have been upset and just left home we would have lost this opportunity to be parents to our son Eli. We would have never met our birth parents as well because there is no way she would have ever known about us. God works in mysterious ways. It was hard to go through and let me tell you it was not easy but it was worth it. We passed our test and we were blessed with a son, my husband had dreamed for he always wanted a son first and it all worked out. Because his timing is so right and perfect. How truly grateful we are for our birth parents - what a hard decision it must have been.
We later met with the judge and it was the best day ever because then it was official! Elijah is ours finally - it was truly a wonderful experience. I wished all our friends and family could have been there. We understand lives are busy and there is so little room. However it was wonderful and easy I cried my eyes out. It is so funny how they ask you questions like are you sure you want to adopt this child, because he will be yours and of course we said, “Yes who wouldn’t, we love him so much.” I think back to before being childless and I am so grateful that there is a God and he lives and hears our heartfelt prayers. I love the Lord with all my heart. I would have never imagined us being parents and it’s amazing how time flies.
But it is not the end we try our best to keep our birth parents updated with photos and I call them from time to time. They knew that he would be in good hands or else they would have never made the decision to place Elijah with our family and yes we sure love him and are grateful for the opportunity of parenthood.
